Enabling Loved Ones
One of the hardest things we have to overcome in treating addiction is to stop family and loved ones from enabling the addicted and perpetuating the problem! While we care about those suffering and want to surround them with love sometimes the best thing we can do is nothing. Specifically, provide them with the love that they need and not the love that they are asking for. Chances are if your loved is in treatment (or multiples) then they have borrowed money and other things to bail them out in a tight spot. If this sounds familiar then this has probably been going on for a very long time and beyond frustrating. Stop supporting the afflicted and allow them to face the consequence of their actions or lack of actions. Nearly 100% of the time the consequences will be an motivation to get honest and ask for help. It is at this point when structured help will make sense to your loved one. While this will likely be painful, it’s usually the only way to get the person we love the help that they need. When you see your loved one getting better and helping themselves you will smile and know that the love provided changed their life.